When was the last time your boss at office scolded (in Hindi “Daanta”) you?
It may be just yesterday or only minutes ago.
Did you take offence (in Hindi “Bura lagna”) of that scolding?
No. Or may be YES. But you didn’t drag it to your home? Correct. If you didn’t then congrats.
Getting a severe scolding from the boss at workplace is quite common.
People get reprimanded for their work all the time. No one takes offence of it. It is assumed that a boss reprimands you for your mistakes, because he/she does not want you to repeat them. In addition, you are at the receiving end only until you hold the job position. If you resign now, your boss will not scold you anymore.
Thus the reprimand/scolding which you receive from your boss at your workplace is not aimed at you THE PERSON. It is aimed at the position you hold. For instance, if you are a sales officer then the reprimand is for the SALES OFFICER and not for Mr. YOUR NAME.
This is a common piece of wisdom. But it is not that common. That is why people take every reprimand they receive personally and take offence. Such a behavior must be avoided.
Another form of work place or work related attack comes from the peers (in Hindi “Sahkarmi” or “Samkaksh”). Peers always try to attack you. More so if you hold the prime position among them. The reason for such attacks is the position you hold. They know that only when they dislodge you from the job position, they get a chance to make a claim. They do that by pointing to the mistakes in your work. This automatically elevates them as those more worthy of that position.
Again there is nothing PERSONAL in their attacks. They are attacking you because you hold the job position. The moment you are not in that job position, your peers will not attack you.
This applies to every job in the World – Be it that of a country’s President, Prime Minister, Bank Chairman or a sales officer. Hence it is WRONG TO SAY that your peers/adversaries have some personal agenda against you the person. It is better to assume that unless you prove your professional expertise required for that job role, they will keep pointing at your mistakes. When seen that way adversarial position of peers does not seem that wrong either. They are simply showing why they are more suitable for the role.