The common belief about human female sexuality is that a woman needs to Feel Emotionally Secure to want Sex. A latest book by a celebrated journalist looks into such commonly held beliefs about female sexuality and shares how some recent Researches in the field counter such Beliefs.
Female Sexuality has long been seen from the animal instinct point of view. Under which, a male is more inclined to have sex compared to a female, as the former has to spread his seeds. Female in contrast, is seen to be more selective in choosing the mate, as that way she controls not only the continuance of the best genes forward; but also controls the risks of pregnancy and unnecessary child-rearing. A new Book by Daniel Bergner, titled ‘What Do Women Want? may be a surprise! as the New book exposes some surprising secrets of female sexuality.
The book, What Do Women Want?: Adventures in the Science of Female Desire
, challenges some of the long-standing myths about female sexuality, which actually means myths regarding women and sex, by exposing the secrets of female sexuality, including monogamy and fantasies.
The book talks about everything from the nature of attraction and pursuit to the prevalence of taboo fantasies to monogamy, and presents some rather surprising or unheard of things. Here are the few:
1) Men are Promiscuous by Nature:
The common Sexual Wisdom says that men are more promiscuous by nature because they’re biologically programmed to spread their seed, while the risks of pregnancy and child-rearing cause women to be more selective. The book talks about some of the most unexpected research findings in this area.
In 10 separate studies, sexologist Marta Meana found that between 30 and 60 percent of women reported, frequently have “rape fantasies,” and many of the women who described their own daydreams were also disturbed, reveals the book.
2) Women need to Feel Emotionally Secure to want Sex:
The common belief regarding female sexuality is that women need to feel emotionally connected in order to feel attracted and to want sex. Quoting a recent study by sexologist Meredith Chivers, the book reveals that when it comes to desire, women are as visually stimulated and more easily turned on as men.
3) Indifferent Male Turns off a Woman:
Citing a study of sexual aggression in female rats and monkeys by Martha McClintock, which is about not just rat flirtation- where female rats engage in a sort of coy physical approach to males, moving closer and pulling away over and over; but also about the situation when the female rat is faced with an indifferent male. The study finds that when faced with an indifferent male, the female doesn’t give up. And keeps tying. May be that explains why women find writers, academics, painters attractive.
4) Women Hate Polygamy:
Conventional wisdom has long held that women value monogamy more than men, but recent studies have indicated that women have as complicated a relationship with monogamy as men do, the book reveals. [may be Sorority which means A group of girls or women associated for a common purpose; a sisterhood; living together may explain this]
Those who have been around girls for some time, may find the myths shared in the book (some shared above), rather true. Women indeed are complex individuals; behaving differently to different situations and stimuli. The book can help in understanding the subject of female sexuality and the accompanying baggage.
About the Book
In What Do Women Want? Adventures in the Science of Female Desire, critically acclaimed journalist Daniel Bergner disseminates the latest scientific research in female sexuality and paints an unprecedented portrait of female lust: the triggers, the fantasies, the mind-body connection (and disconnection), the reasons behind the loss of libido, and, most revelatory, that this loss is not inevitable.
In the book the author asks:
Are women actually the less monogamous gender?
Do women really crave intimacy and emotional connection?
Are women more disposed to sex with strangers and multiple pairings than either science or society have ever let on?
And is “the fairer sex” actually more sexually aggressive and anarchic than men?
While debunking the myths about female sexuality popularized by evolutionary psychology, Bergner also looks at the future of female sexuality. Pharmaceutical companies are pouring billions of dollars to develop a “Viagra” for women. But will it ever be released? Or are we not yet ready for a world in which women can become aroused at the simple popping of a pill? Why is Female Sexuality a Taboo Topic in most part of the world?
Insightful and illuminating, What Do Women Want? is a deeper exploration of Daniel Bergner’s provocative New York Times Magazine cover story; it will spark dynamic debates and discussions for years to come.